pyjamasandtea

February 23, 2011

Difficult Things

Filed under: Lists — pyjamasandtea @ 11:50 am
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A list of some weirdly difficult decisions after a separation:

1.   Does the ex get a colourful birthday sticker on the family calendar, the way the other family members do?

2.  If we aren’t friends in real-space, are we facebook friends?  Twitter followers?  Skype buddies?

3.  Where do I put the wedding ring once it is off my finger?  What will I do with it?

4.  Do I change the cute, historic nickname on my cell to a more impersonal one?

5.  In scanning the family photo albums, so that we each have copies, do I scan the photos of the ex?  The ones of us together?  The ones of us as a family?

6.  Am I allowed to ask the ex for help with my computer?  My car?  The taxes?

7.  Do I continue to use the cheques with both our names on them?  Is it cheap to wait til they run out before ordering new ones?

8.  Do I have to tell our dentist or can I just say the ex is fine?

9.  When I make his favourite recipe– the one he can’t make himself, should I drop off leftovers?  Is it fair that he never gets to eat that dish again?

10.  How do I answer the question, “When did I stop loving you”?  Did I ever love you?  What did that feel like?  Did I ever stop?  How do I know?

 

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1 Comment »

  1. I dunno. I have a friend going through the same– it sucks and I am sorry you guys are having to go through it, too. She has asked me pretty much all of those questions on your list. All I can say is, it seems to evolve over time. Like, she finally asked him to give back the key to the house. Baby steps, I say– baby steps.

    (And wine, and girlfriends, of course.)

    Comment by YYZ — March 5, 2011 @ 10:39 am | Reply


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